Ah, will there be any other thing more fun than being under monitoring by the close friends and Family Food Police? This happens to the vast majority of my fat friends but to be clear it happens to thin people too – food judgment and shaming happen to folks of all sizes and it’s never ok. I think that people need to remember that unwanted fat hate and body shaming are modeled for individuals around our culture, fear of being excess fat is a drivers of a complete lot of habits. First, I always suggest that you are ready for boundary setting when you go into this type of situation.
Think in what your boundaries are, and what implications you are prepared to enforce. So consider what you would be prepared to do – Leave the function? Stay at a hotel? Cease discussion until you will be treated by the individual properly? Be sure that guess what happens you want that you can follow through. As an example, I’ll use that age-old shaming question “Should you eat that?
This is such a loaded question. What do they mean by “need”? Are they asking if my glycogen stores are depleted? If I am near hunger? If my own body as of this brief second requires the precise nutrients that are delivered by cornbread stuffing and gravy? Or do they feel that fostering a relationship with food that is dependant on guilt and shame is in my best interest? This question is custom-made to make someone feel ashamed.
The person asking the question has made the decision that it’s their job to move the view on your activities. Being too cowardly to directly state their opinion, they utilize this relevant question as a mode of passive aggression to “cause you to confess it to yourself”. This is one particular situations where they would claim to be mistreating you on your own good probably, also known for this blog as “Pulling a Jillian”. Remember that many people never psychologically got past Junior High and nothing make them feel so powerful as judging another person and then make them feel like crap.
The amount of difficulty on discerning someone’s intention in this type of thing can range between “of course” to “who the hell knows”. Here’s the thing though, from my perspective it doesn’t matter why they are asking it: I am not ok with being asked, and I reach to make that decision.
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So you’re at any occasion meal, you take mere seconds on mashed potatoes and someone asks the feared question: “Should you eat that?” It seems like the table falls silent, waiting for your reply. What do you say? If it’s me, first I quell my rage and resist the desire to place them down (Yes, I do need these mashed potatoes. Did you should be a complete freaking jerk?
Second, much like so many situations where people lash out at you, understand that this is about their issues and has nothing to do with you. If emotions well up, consider that you might be feeling embarrassed and/or sorry for them, rather than ashamed of your activities. Answer with a Question (I find it really effective to ask these without malice, with a shade of pure interest. I’m not soliciting opinions about my food choices.
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